Giving a Woman a Gift | Clues For The Clueless!


Giving a Woman a Gift – Clues for the Clueless

Giving a woman a gift is not rocket science. Right out of the gate, however, I am going to address the elephant in the room…men are not always the most intelligent gift givers. They give out some of the most lame brained, ignorant gifts ever thought up. The problem is an old one. The Neanderthals probably thought that giving their cavewomen new rocks to ground up grains with was a great gift too. Men simply don’t get it and for good reason…their focus is usually a bit off.

Think about it….when men are buying a gift, what exactly is on their minds?

  • Are they thinking about whether the gift will get them sex?
  • Are they thinking about how it might benefit them?
  • Are they thinking only about cost?
  • Perhaps they are men of rare intelligence…it is rare that they show any.

I kid, but it does make one wonder. Giving a woman a gift is really not all that tough. Here are some tips for the clueless for giving a woman a gift:

If the gift is going to benefit you, odds are it is a bad choice.

When you pick out a gift for your woman, the key is to think about what she loves. This is not an opportunity for you to finally get her that blender she has talked about. You should buy her the blender just because, dude.

If it is see-through, you are probably headed for some trouble.

Lingerie is a gift you get because you want to make her feel special. She will not feel special if you get her lingerie for her birthday. She will see right through you. Save this for Valentine’s Day as an add-on gift with something else.

There are few things that belong in the kitchen that should be on your radar.

Do you really think we don’t know that you will be eating the results too?

Appliances will get you a black eye.

Giving a woman a gift and getting your laundry done should not be related. This goes for ovens, vacuum cleaners or toasters too.

Find something that she has talked about

Women love using code language but we are pretty direct about certain things. Items we would love to own is on that list for sure. If you have been listening, you already know what we want. If not, then there is no saving you.

Be sentimental but don’t be cheap

What is the difference?

Writing your wife a song and then performing it for her on the guitar with a nice bottle of wine at your favorite private spot is sentimental.

Giving your wife a coupon for a kiss is cheap.

Don’t confuse the two.

Giving a woman a gift is really about common sense, guys. Think about what they want, consider who the gift is going to benefit and listen to what they have recently hinted at. It really is that simple.

No go buy her something nice.

Facebook Etiquette Questions

More Facebook Etiquette Questions

Who do you turn to for Facebook etiquette questions? It is not always an easy thing knowing what to do on Facebook. More importantly, knowing what not to do can be just as trying. Wouldn’t it be awesome if there were some type of Facebook guru out there that had all the answers?

Fortunately for you, I am just that person. At least I am the best thing you have going right now, so pull up a chair. Here are some Facebook etiquette questions I have been asked along with my wise answers for your perusal:

How much sharing is too much where your own content is concerned?

I understand that need to put yourself out there. If we are creative, entrepreneurial or trying to build a brand, a Facebook presence is important. There is a fine line between putting your name and brand out there and swamping every friend you have with oceans of self-serving content. Perhaps you might consider sharing something of theirs on occasion. It is amazing what sharing the love can do for their patience when it comes to your content blasting their cell every five minutes. Share, but be considerate of others.

Is it proper to stalk the pages of high school crushes on Facebook?

Most all of us have gone hunting an ex or two to see what they look like, who they are with and how ugly they have become since they were with us. While this might be fairly normal behavior, it is not without rules. If you are going to do this sort of thing, you have to follow the most important ones. Here are the rules that can’t be broken:

  • Never spend more than five minutes looking at a picture. Then it becomes a bit weird.
  • If you feel the need to make a comment, aim it at the couple and not the ex personally.
  • Never listen to music that was popular back then…when you were with the ex.
  • Step away from the keyboard if you begin to yearn. Yearning for someone you have not spoken to since fifth grade is not going to end well….ever.

Should you share what you ate this morning, afternoon and evening?

Some people on Facebook like to post every single thing they eat. This is no big deal, but these same types generally post every single thing they do period. If they are not a chef and are including a recipe, they are probably just making me hungry for the fun of it. That is not good for anybody. What is it that they always say? Don’t poke the bear? An occasional food post is fine, but I really don’t need to hear about every last thing you eat.

Why is posting my naked, drunk by the poolside photos a bad thing on Facebook?

If I really have to answer this, you have no right to be on Facebook at all. Still, there are countless of these on Facebook for the world to see. The bottom line is that you should not be sharing anything that you would not want your mom or dad to see. Cause guess what?

They can probably see it too. Along with your boss, your pastor, your teachers, your friends, your boyfriend….get the picture?

Why is it a bad idea to “like” every status randomly for speed’s sake?

There are those out there that simply have to like every single status update that comes through their feed. It is like a contest. I was looking over my Facebook feed and in just a short five minutes, I came across the following:

  • A mother talking about the loss of a child.
  • Someone that lost her pet of 15 years.
  • Someone that broke his leg.
  • A sister that was talking about her brother that died overseas.

What do these status updates have in common? People were liking them. What is likable about these posts? Nothing! They are terrible. These are the posts where you should comfort and take the time to type a kind word or two. If not that, then type nothing at all. Rather than think that people are actually that cruel, I have to believe that they simply were running through their status updates and trying “catch up” with all their likes. This is silly. Read the status updates and then decide what is appropriate.

Is it ever a good idea to poke someone on Facebook?

Though poking is a heck of a lot of fun in real life, it is not very fun on Facebook. This feature is so antiquated it is not even funny and the joke is old too. Get rid of it!

Why do people say things on Facebook that they never would in real life?

Generally because they are cowards. If you are being brave behind a keyboard, that is just sad. Never say anything that you would not say face to face. You know who you are and you know if you are doing this. Stop it, because we usually know who you are too.

That concludes this particular session of Facebook etiquette questions. If you have any questions you would like answered, let me know in the comments below. I will try to include them next time around!

Wedding Etiquette for Step Parent

Step parents are a scary proposition to many wedding planners and with good reason…there are a ton of various social minefields possible when you bring parents, step parents and weddings together. While some families are fortunate enough to have good relationships with their exes new spouses, others find it to be a complete train wreck. How do you deal with these situations in weddings and how does that work?

Here are some tips for wedding etiquette for step parent:

The bride and groom are numero uno – What the bride and groom wants plays heavily into these decisions. If the groom is closer with his stepfather than his biological dad and he asks him to stand up beside him, then honor that. Likewise for the bride. When they have an opinion on the subject, it should be the overriding answer to the following issues. Otherwise, you may consider the following rules as a general guide.

Write invitations to make all happy where possible – Invitations are a tricky proposition but can be handled rather easily by simply saying “The parents of” and leaving out names. If you do list the names, go ahead and list all involved parents if needed. Brand new step parents would not need to be included in most cases nor would they expect to be.

Taking her down the aisle – This is completely up to the bride, but you certainly can involve a pair of parents. If you like, have one on either side. Step dad could bring you in and then dad could bring you the rest of the way. Whatever the case, the bride is in charge of this all the way.

Seating issues – For Heaven’s sake this one is easy but people make it so darn complicated. All you have to do is make sure they all are on the front row together. At the reception, place them at two tables, both up front and center, each with their current spouse. Seating issues should never be a problem and if they are, perhaps the adults should take a look at just who is getting married.

Loudmouths not allowed – No matter what the issues may be between parents, if they can’t get along for the wedding they should not be present. Seat them apart from one another, avoid each other and whatever else is necessary, but anyone that can’t control themselves should be asked to leave. Weddings happen only once (hopefully) and it should be a joyous occasion no matter what your family history is.

Really, wedding etiquette for step parents should boil down to the needs and wants of the bride and groom. That pretty much covers the entire issue if you are putting the focus where it should go.